A girl in a bar said
“My friend was being hit on.”
“She was being hit on, so I helped her out”,
“I told the guy I was her girlfriend to put him off”.
And I told her “No”.
“That is not the way we do this”,
When you pretend, you are admitting that you feel guilty for saying No,
You are apologising for not wanting his drunken, leery attention,
You are admitting you do not feel like you have the right to simply say “no thank you”.
“No thanks and goodbye”
Is more than enough.
It is all the explanation you owe anyone.
And if he will not accept a rebuttal,
That is his problem to deal with,
Not yours for simply being there.
We should not be using lesbianism as our spectre,
A thing to be feared because it definitively states
NO BOYS ALLOWED.
We owe it to ourselves as women,
(And to the men who haven’t learned yet),
To realise that “No” is enough,
Without a wall of dungaree-clad stereotypes to back us up.
To be strong enough to believe that “No” need never be followed with “Because”.